Lets talk about SEX baby...

That famous song by Salt n Pepa may have been on to something with their title. Sex is on everyone’s mind from time to time. According to the old rule of thumb, men think about sex every 2 minutes, whilst women think about shopping in the same time frame, but apparently this is not the case according to Marnie C. Ferree in her article ‘Women and the Web :Cybersex Activity and Implications’. The cybersex industry is believed to generate anywhere up to $83 billion annually, yeah that’s right, $83 BILLION SPENT ON PORN EVERY YEAR!!!

I suppose you’re sitting there thinking that it is just fat old weirdos spending there hard (excuse the pun) earned money on nudie pics and bouncing boobie videos, but surprisingly, the rise of women in this cybersex world is far outside the stereotypical boundaries. The internet and cyber space has given women the power and anonymity they need to explore their sexual side online, and they are taking to it likes duck to water. According to Ferree’s research, although women spend significantly less time online then men, they account for 21% of cybersex addiction. They are overrepresented amongst those who progress beyond recreational use to the realm of addiction (mind blowing I know. I wonder myself where these women are hiding...)

But sex addiction does not only affect women, men are victims too. Shocking, I know...men addicted to porn? Never! According to wired.com’s ‘Internet Porn: Worse Than Crack?’ by Ryan Singel, he describes internet pornography as “the new crack cocaine epidemic”. It has been linked to addiction, misogyny, paedophilia, boob jobs and erectile dysfunction. Some heavy shit. The internet is described as a ‘drug pumped into your house 24/7 for free’. Pornography addicts have more difficulty recovering than drug addicts too, as junkies can get the gear out of their system, but pornographic images are imprinted in the brain forever.


So does this mean that porn is ruining our lives? Is it really as bad as it is made out to be? Try telling that to a 16 year old boy with raging hormones. But it’s how porn affects your life where people go wrong. They say everything is good in moderation, so maybe this is true with porn as well.

So maybe it’s us men that drive women to the brink of cybersex addiction? Maybe women are striving for an immediate sense of sexual power over men, or maybe they purely want sex and find it via the web cause all us blokes just give them the shits in real life?. They can go online, do their thing and leave us stranded...much the same as what many men do to women in the real world. Who knows, it’s not something I’m sure any women would admit to for fear of public humiliation, so the answer I guess will forever remain a mystery.

But we all know that girls don’t really like sex, well that’s what they tell us anyway. So maybe this whole debacle is just a misunderstanding. At the end of the day, women and men might not actually be that different. They both want to get their kicks and have a bit of fun, no strings attached. Kind of like an episode of ‘Sex and the City’ right??



So next time your missus locks herself up in the study on the computer, don’t believe she is spending all your money on eBay, she’s spending it all on porn... and blaming it all on you.